“The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same.”[1] – V. Amable
Victor J. Amable, in his book Personality Development, shared a story about a singer who always produced hits because of his terrific personality, leadership, and winning smile. His magnetic personality helped him get the breaks. The author then discussed 14 ways to acquire a winning personality.
Amable pointed out that what reveals a personality comes from the inside. Compared to an iceberg, there’s a reflection coming from a deeper root. Our personality traits and behavior come from our deep mind setting or subconscious actions acquired through our habits, practices, beliefs, culture, and traditions. These factors affect our personality, which may bring us to success or deliver us into failure.
14 Essentials to a Winning Personality
Let’s review the fourteen traits enumerated by Amable and gather more insights from additional sources .
- Character
- Enthusiasm
- Grooming
- Personal Habits
- Attitude
- Friendliness
- Intelligence
- Aggressiveness
- Imagination
- Initiative
- Thinking ability
- Human relations
- Spiritual Values
- Personal Magnetism
Character
A good character, Amable said, is having a reputation for honesty, integrity, and fair dealing. Nick and James of 5 Strategies for Rebuilding Self-integrity agreed that you should remain true to your values. Life is too short to spend in being anything other than the person you really want to be. Living a life with integrity solidifies who you are as a person and what you stand for.
Enthusiasm
According to an article written by Davis, zest is both mental and physical vigor. It is about approaching life with vitality, not doing things hallway or half-heartedly, and feeling alive. Zest, gratitude, hope, and love are more strongly associated with life satisfaction than “head” strengths such as judgment and love of learning. Zest is also closely tied to work satisfaction.
For Amable, a man who is known for his enthusiastic personality, is always in demand.
Grooming
Grooming is the primary function of caring for yourself by cleaning and maintaining your hair, body, and appearance standards. An attractive physical appearance enhances personality. It is an added advantage. A physically attractive person, who is well-groomed, can impress upon people.
Personal Habits
In psychology, the term habit refers to a process whereby context prompts action automatically, through activation of mental context action associations learned through prior performance.We are what we are of what we consistently do. Therefore, you need to cultivate a good habit to turn your way to success.
For example, you may make an everyday routine in the morning and evening or routinely weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly activities that are also aligned to your personal values and goals.
Attitude
In psychology by Kendra Cherry, an attitude refers to a set of emotions, beliefs, and behaviors toward a particular object, person, thing, or event. Attitudes are often the result of experience or upbringing, and they can have a powerful influence over behavior. While attitudes are enduring, they can also change.
So, attitudes are most likely how you put perspectives in life. To have the right attitude, you need to develop a set of good, trained minds, and a good one is having a positive outlook in life. So, having a careless attitude is not advisable for a winning personality.
Friendliness
Friendliness refers to the ability to put up a warm personality that makes you approachable, easy to relate with, and without any hostility. This trait can be an advantage because it is easier to make workplace friends who can offer you support. It reduces the risk or probability of getting involved in fights and strife that can lead to suspensions. Customers love friendly professionals, too, and they can become your regular clients.
Intelligence
Psychology described intelligence in many ways: higher-level abilities such as abstract reasoning, mental representation, problem-solving, decision-making, learning, emotional knowledge, creativity, and adaptation to meet the demands of the environment effectively.
When you have a thorough knowledge of what you are doing, you gain respect and admiration, he should have a complete understanding of what he is doing. This results to living with others harmoniously.
Aggressiveness
Aggressive behavior is good when balanced with tact, diplomacy, and constructive action. Aggressiveness must be pleasant rather than argumentative, productive rather than militant.
Imagination
Haas described imaginationation as the ability to visualize things that pervade our entire existence. Imagination influences what we do, think and create. Ultimately, imagination is the key to innovation. Imagination is essential, especially for leaders, who have to lead people into the future and foresee the challenges not yet known that await mankind.
Initiative
Rawlings defined initiative as the ability to be resourceful and work without always being told what to do. This trait requires resilience and determination. People who show initiative can think and act when needed.
McCoy delivered the importance of using initiative in the workplace as a way to help your company be more successful and get your employer to recognize you as a critical asset. Proper initiative in the workplace can help employers see you as management material.
Thinking ability
Amable said that everyone thinks, but what he thinks or how creatively and constructively he thinks is again. The man with a thinking personality can digest a thought in his mind, running it round and round until it turns some results and develops the ideas that lead to success. Thus, learning to use it will significantly help you along the way.
Human relations
People with good human relations have a pleasant characteristic that knows how to treat humans. They understand the basic needs of people around them such as recognition, satisfaction, opportunity to grow, contribution to community service, and others.
Spiritual Values
Maltbie Babcock defined spirituality to best manifested on the ground― it is seeing God in everyday things and showing God in common tasks. A person filled with spiritual values will most likely enhance inspiring conversations that make it a person shine.
Personal Magnetism
You become fascinating because you can combine various characteristics of a developed personality. You have a commanding presence that enables you to influence others.
Shine on!
Now, analyze those traits that you already have. How can you improve the traits that you have? What do you need to work on?
If you have many or most of these qualities, then let it shine.
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