You are important!
You are loved!
You know yourself!
You are living life intentionally!
You feel good about yourself!
You are born with a purpose!
You know the real you!
You are unique!
Once again, please try to read the following sentences with feelings and with all your heart.
I am important!
I am loved!
I know myself!
I lived with a purpose!
I feel good about myself!
I am born with a purpose!
I am unique!
What is Affirmation?
According to Dr. Kathryn J. Lively of Psychology Today, affirmation definitions are creative statements that are intended for individual transformation. It can increase motivation to attain a purpose, objective, aim, or target. It is positive self-talk. It encourages self-development.
While Brian Tracy explained how affirmation works through our subconscious mind job is subjective. It does not think or reason independently; it merely obeys the commands it receives from your conscious mind. Just as your conscious mind can be thought of as the gardener, planting seeds, your subconscious mind can be thought of as the garden, or fertile soil, in which the seeds germinate and grow.
You Need To Affirm Yourself.
Affirming or validating oneself has positive effects:
First, suggested by Neil Ellis such as:
- Clarifies your intentions.
- Help visualize the result.
- Reinforces what is important.
- Get into a better feeling state.
- Solutions for challenging thoughts or situations.
While Debbie Hampton emphasized that affirmations through scientific studies showed can help mental health like:
- Decrease health-deteriorating stress.
- Can make a person less likely to dismiss harmful health messages.
- Evidence suggests affirmations help you perform better at work.
- Boosted problem-solving abilities of chronically stressed subjects to the same level as those with low stress.
- Can effectively stress and rumination both of which contribute to depression and anxiety.
Do You Love Yourself? Do You Respect It? Why?
- Because you only have 1 life
- Nobody else can love you even better.
- Nobody can understand you more.
- You benefit from loving yourself more.
If you love yourself already, it should even be better.
Never stop loving it. It is a continuous life-long process.
Do not try just to show off to people but deepen it within your heart and soul, be the real you. Know that we are commanded to love ourselves.
If you love yourself, you do not need to compare it to others even you are not as good as them. Because you have your own time, and you should compete with yourself, not with others. For you are unique, you are different, you have experiences that lead you to a life with a purpose.
If you love yourself, you are to create things you love to spend your precious time with.
If you love yourself you are clear with your vision, mission, and goals in your life.
If you love yourself, you will do what you wanted to do in your life.
If you have been in a messy situation such as having a broken family, a breadwinner all your life, you live with a family with some disorder, if you have been in a separation or divorce, broken-hearted was abused, neglected, rejected, or made fooled.
How Will You Make It?
Will you come out with a rebel inside of you?
Will you show people the demon inside of you?
Will you make others see the monsters in you?
Yes! You are human! Because you have feelings, you sometimes have desires in life that made you disappointed, was made fooled, and abused your kindness. But never the instances in your life break you down and change it into a bad person.
Instead, make this an inspiration and starting point in your life. To be better than yesterday. To focus on having a better character, to be wiser, stronger, and be an open-minded person. To enjoy life, no matter what circumstances you have.
What will you do to have a breakthrough to achieve goals?
To pass through hindrances, struggles, or barriers?
To achieve dreams in your life?
To transform your life from being depressed to being happy, from fooled to be wise and stronger, from being poor to be prosperous, from getting alone and sad in your life to being happily married, or from getting divorced and separated or being happily single again?
If you are getting a little older, it is not too late to have a better life. Maybe, this pandemic time is the best time to give a gift to yourself, to our Creator to those people you love. Changing the better you!
How Is Self-Love Done Through Affirmation?
Can you still remember this song “Emotions” by Mariah Carey
You’ve got me feeling emotions
Deeper than I’ve ever dreamed of
You’ve got me feeling emotions
Higher than the heavens above
I feel good
I feel nice
I’ve never felt so
Satisfied
Emotions can be recognized and control.
May we be driven by our logical reasons to have positive or pleasant emotions rather than be driven by unpleasant emotions.
According to Psychotherapist Dr. Maloney said that affirmation does not work if it was like just speaking or reading about it. But only by realizing first your negative thoughts. To do that you need to write down everything in your journal your experiences, your negative self-talk, negative experiences, and feelings. Then that is the time you can level up your emotion through affirmations.
Emotions are just energy. To change your mindset according to Abiola Abrams you need to put some energy into it. Affirmations are declaring things. It is like incantations.
The idea of your life on what is happening is because of the belief you set to yourself. Therefore, it is important to have a good thought that will improve your self-belief.
When Can We Do That?
- Through audio listening, reading, writing it down, stating it out loud, you may do it every morning as you wake up, before you sleep, in the middle of the day. Or while taking showers, cooking, putting on make-ups, or washing clothes and dishes, gardening, cleaning the house, or while looking at the mirror.
- Making affirmations whenever you are alone or when you feel stressed and having negative thoughts about yourself.
All in all, to have a good set of affirmations, you should start journaling first as mentioned by Dr. Maloney.
Create your chart based on your experiences. All negative thoughts, the negative pattern of behavior, negative experiences write them down and alter them with a list of self-affirmation.
People need affirmation because we all need love. One way of showing love to yourself is by stating positive words about yourself. Can you still remember 5 languages of love by Gary Chapman? One of which is words of affirmations, my dear, before you can give words of affirmations to others, give it to yourself first. Love yourself. Show it through positive self-talk wherever, whenever.
Lovingly yours,
Blooming Amore
